When We’re Tired of Living a Counterfeit Life

Have you ever bought a counterfeit? Have you wandered the streets of Manhattan and found a bottle of your favorite perfume or a beautiful designer bag for $20?


Did you think it was real? So many of us, whether we knew it or not, have been duped by a counterfeit. It looked real, we thought it was real —until we compared it to the real thing and realized we’d been taken by an inferior imitation!


Counterfeiting isn’t only for perfumes and handbags. Many of us live counterfeit lives. We’re afraid of letting our real selves be known, afraid of ridicule, terrified of rejection. We never let anyone get to know who we really are. We never get to know who we really are. We miss the joy of experiencing the person God created. Living with a counterfeit self, we can never experience abundance, we can never know true peace.


Here is an excerpt from my new book, Peace For a Lifetime, that shares the importance of knowing and growing our authentic self so that we can experience the life and relationships we desire.


Let’s face it. All of us at some point, whether we knew or not, have bought a counterfeit. Whether we were looking for a lower-cost prescription medication or simply trying to obtain some designer watch, handbag, or boots at a discount price, we have all been duped by an imposter that looked just like the real thing. If we’re honest, many of us don’t mind being duped. We have lost an appreciation for what’s real because we just want what we want—easy, fast, and cheap. Who cares if the item is real, right—as long as the look of status we’re hoping for is supported?

Unfortunately, counterfeiting hasn’t just impacted the world of luxury goods. Over the past few decades, the practice has filtered down into our medications, our food supply, even our home-building materials. What is the saddest to me, though, is the way counterfeiting has begun to impact our relationships and even our individual identities.

With the increasing popularity of social networks, we can now even counterfeit friends and relationships. People are engaged to, and in love with, others on Facebook who they have never met and who don’t even exist. Even the idea of posting status updates makes us feel pressured to present ourselves and our lives as an ideal picture of who we are, or who we would like others to think we are. We become satisfied with a world of pretend people with pretend identities living in pretend relationships.

The problem with spending so much time and energy creating or living an illusion is we never get to experience the real thing. Somewhere in all of us is a longing for something authentic, something dependable. Nothing fake will ever satisfy our souls like a true connection with a friend, a genuine encounter with God, or an authentic understanding of ourselves.


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You don’t have to keep up the façade. You don’t have to keep pretending. You can experience authentic love that will never disappoint and will never let you down. God created you with all of your strengths and weaknesses, gifts and abilities, for a reason. He doesn’t want an imitation of you. He wants you! He longs for you to find freedom from everything that’s counterfeit so that you can embrace the unparalleled beauty of your true, authentic self.


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About Lisa

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, author, coffee lover, and wife. My online community lisamurrayonline.com provides a compassionate place in the midst of the stresses and struggles of life. At heart, I am just a Southern girl who loves beautiful things, whether it is the beauty of words found in a deeply moving story, the beauty of a meal cooked with love, the beauty of a cup of coffee with a friend, or the beauty seen in far away landscapes and cultures. I have fallen passionately in love with the journey and believe it is among the most beautiful gifts to embrace and celebrate. While I grew up in the Florida sunshine, I live with my husband just outside Nashville in Franklin, TN.

About Peace for a Lifetime

In my new book, Peace for a Lifetime, I share the keys to cultivating a life that’s deeply rooted, overflowing, and abundant, the fruit of which is peace. Through personal and professional experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve discovered how to take the broken pieces of life and find indestructible peace with herself, God and with others. Through my story and other’s stories you’ll realize that you can experience the life for which you long. You can experience abundance beyond anything you can imagine. You can experience peace, not just for today, not just for tomorrow. You can experience peace —for a lifetime!

Peace for a Lifetime is available on Amazon.com.


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  1. Hi, LIsa. I’m not sure if my other comment went through or not. It gave me an error that java cookies need to be enabled, or something like that. I have java script, and the cookies are enabled, so not sure what that was about. At any rate, if you didn’t receive the comment…congrats on your new book. I wish you all the best. Prayers for it to reach the hands of those who need to read it most. So good to be your linkup buddy at Barbie’s place this morning. ((blessings))

  2. I want to be real to my bones, and I’m realizing, especially in this life of blogging and teaching, that it’s got to be intentional, and it’s got to be God who “gives the increase.” Anything less is not worth having. Thanks, Lisa, for tackling this tricky topic.

    • lisamurray

      February 19, 2016 at 6:06 PM

      Great words, Michele! God does have to give the increase. Striving just isn’t worth it. I always feel peace when I am able to keep myself grounded in His love, His calling, His purpose in my life. Blessings!

  3. As my life has a taken a challenging turn, I am grateful for the opportunity to read your book. Albeit slow, I am savoring it and allowing it’s truths to sink in deep. Blessings!

    • lisamurray

      February 19, 2016 at 6:07 PM

      Such a blessing to have you on the team. I have been prayerful for you and your family and continue to ask God’s blessing and His peace over you, friend!

  4. The message of this book is very needed in this time, I believe! Thanks so much for sharing this at Booknificent Thursday on Mommynificent.com this week!

    • lisamurray

      February 19, 2016 at 6:00 PM

      Yes, I believe the message of peace is desperately needed in our hearts, our homes, and our communities. Thanks for stopping by today!

  5. How blessed we are that God not only knows the real us, but that he loves the real us. It’s a great lesson for us to then use with others. Accepting people as they are is not easy, but it’s a gift!

  6. Sounds like something we all need to hear. Thanks for speaking truth.

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